Family advice?
Jinx Rose™ asked:
Okay I know iI’ve been posting like 1000 questions but I really do need family advice.
My mom does drugs and all of the money she “saved” so I can go visit her she spent it on drugs and stuff. My aunt is so sweet and tells me everything because everyone says “it’s better if you don’t know” or “your mom loves you soooo much she’s so good” and they all **** my aunt! Then my aunt wanted to fight for me in court so she could have me but I am scared because I willl miss my brother and my godfather (my dad died) and also my mom might kill herself because she has a bad case of depression…
Jonathan
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Okay I know iI’ve been posting like 1000 questions but I really do need family advice.
My mom does drugs and all of the money she “saved” so I can go visit her she spent it on drugs and stuff. My aunt is so sweet and tells me everything because everyone says “it’s better if you don’t know” or “your mom loves you soooo much she’s so good” and they all **** my aunt! Then my aunt wanted to fight for me in court so she could have me but I am scared because I willl miss my brother and my godfather (my dad died) and also my mom might kill herself because she has a bad case of depression…
Jonathan
January 20th, 2012 at 10:07 pm
Alex
I am not in a position to tell you what you should do, but I think you should listen to your elders and do what they say. If you want your aunt to look after you, just tell them. Or if you want to remain where you are, just tell them too. I know it is not much help but I hope you get what you want. Take care.
January 21st, 2012 at 3:46 pm
Carlos
That ***** about your mom and i can see how your confused…sounds to me like this is a hard decision you have to make, you have to think about what you really want…i mean, your mom is your mom, your gonna love her no matter what bad choices she makes but are you gonna be happy there?…i no it sounds selfish but you have to think of yourself and your future….why not talk to your mom and tell her what your feeling…tell her you want to be there but she needs help first…if she loves you she will be willing to get help with this…i can understand how your aunt would want to help you and that’s great she cares so much she’d fight for you in court but like i said..think about what you want…is that what you want?…she may be able to take better care of you and then you could still see your mom….talk to your aunt about how your feeling…i really hope you find a solution..pray to God about it, he’s listening..i’ll be sure to pray for you.
January 22nd, 2012 at 1:27 am
Jason
In a way, I know how you feel believe it or not. Don’t put the weight of your mom’s problems on your shoulders. It’ll weigh you down. If your family is happier with you mom, that’s their decision. If you happy with you aunt I think it’s time to chill with her. You only live once and I know you care about your mom but care about how you live your life as well. I can’t stress that enough. I fear because I’m 15 and I’m afraid I’ll blink and be in college because my parents fight and I carry all of their problems. being the glue can take its toll trust me. If you live your aunt, you can still see you mom but you wont be overly exposed to the difficulties. I dont think kids need such heavy responsibilities before they even reach college its not right (i’m assuming your still a kid or teen)
good luck. ps i know my advice is EXTREMELY CORNY but i can’t figure out how to say it any better. i make a good point lol
January 23rd, 2012 at 12:41 am
Lauren
Jinx, if you’re Mom is using drugs it’s almost impossible to help her or make her stop unless she wants to do it herself.
I’m sure she’s caused (& will continue) lots of problems & heartaches for you & others in the family. It’s really not a good thing for you to be with her. I understand you will miss your Bro & your Godfather but maybe they can come see you or you can go for short visits.
Your Aunt is doing the right thing by telling you the truth.
Why should anyone make your Mom’s life sound like she’s the victim. She is not the victim at all. If the other family members are justifying your Mom’s behavior then they are helping her stay on drugs (and they don’t even realize it).
I know it’s a worry that your Mom could commit *******. It would hurt you so much. But you can’t change her now. Drug users don’t think like normal people do.
You could only say to your Mom that she is hurting you so much and you’d like to see her stop using drugs. Don’t be afraid to say to her what you honestly think or what’s in your heart. It is hard to verbalize those things sometimes but take a deep breath & tell her.
I’ll say a prayer for you and I wish you well in everything that you do.