How do I overcome depression due to lack of a family?
Simply UniQue♕ asked:
I become so depressed because I don’t have a tight close family. The one I do have is nt really around. I could try to make it work but it takes them to. SOmetimes I see my friend and her family have fun get together and I become more depressed because I desire that. It also ***** Im single which adds to the lonely I feel inside. I have like a huge need to want a good guy and have my own little family. How I do overcome it?
Jonathan
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I become so depressed because I don’t have a tight close family. The one I do have is nt really around. I could try to make it work but it takes them to. SOmetimes I see my friend and her family have fun get together and I become more depressed because I desire that. It also ***** Im single which adds to the lonely I feel inside. I have like a huge need to want a good guy and have my own little family. How I do overcome it?
Jonathan
May 7th, 2011 at 6:55 pm
William
If you don’t have close friends, find some.. at least people to hang around. I’m in the same position, and for me keeping busy is the best thing. Friends, especially close friends are the best solution. I never got that saying until recently friends are the family that you get to choose it’s really true and they can mean a lot.
May 10th, 2011 at 11:14 pm
Jacob
sometimes family memebers are the worst type pf people for you, as they are the people who are supposed to support you but end up dragging you down and making you feel bad about yourself.
take a real good look at them as people and see if they are good enough to be in your life??? if they are poison. like some of my own family members then stay away or you will become more depressed
you could try talking to them and laying all your issues on the table
try and better your own life by making positive steps, instead of relying on your family members to fill your needs
May 12th, 2011 at 6:30 am
Bryan
I totally get how you feel. It is only understandable to feel lonely but one step in overcoming it is looking around and seeing who you do have. Even one person who loves you is something to be thankful for! Trust me I know it is easier said then done I have been there. But when I was depressed I would dive into either working out or some sort of project. Focus on yourself and when you feel good inside you don’t feel as bad. Also getting a puppy or kitten who can give you unconditional love is something that would put a smile on your face. It makes you feel special to care for someone who loves you like that too!
Maybe you could try to make it work out with your family…maybe they feel the exact same way but are too afraid? It is 2009, it’s a new year. Time to start fresh and overcome your demons! make an effort try emailing or reaching out to your family!
But start by focusing on yourself and making yourself better so you love yourself first! Good luck! and keep your head up
May 15th, 2011 at 7:55 am
Lauren
I don’t have a family either. It’s very lonely. I’m not married either. The only consolation I have is that in my astrological chart, the house that rules family is empty. Not only that but the house that rules family is also the empty part of a major aspect in my chart. This tells me that for some reason this was all meant to be. So from that I gather that there is another side to this and someday somewhere in a galaxy far from here, things might be different.
May 18th, 2011 at 9:28 am
Samantha
There’s nothing wrong with wanting a family of your own, but one shouldn’t do it simply to avoid loneliness. Some of the loneliest people around are married with children, so that’s no guarantee. Trust me, it may seem like the grass is greener on the other side, but it’s not. Also, don’t fall for the myths you see on TV re: families of origin. Not every family is the Waltons or the Brady Bunch.
With or without family…you still need to learn how to enjoy your own company, and you also need to start reaching out to other people, so as to get your mind off yourself once in awhile. When you stay busy, you don’t have time to be lonely.
Some suggestions?
Try doing volunteer work…maybe visiting old age homes where there’s people who have no one to visit them, be a Big Sister to an at-risk youth, maybe working with a literacy program, helping at a soup kitchen, that sort of thing.
If community service isn’t your thing, then maybe getting involved in a hobby of some sort. If you’re a religious person, consider getting involved with the house of worship of your choice. Take college courses. Maybe you can consider getting a pet. For some people, their pets are more of a family than some people…but that’s another story lol
Book recommend: Living Alone and Loving It, by Barbara Feldon. She used to be Agent 99 on the TV show Get Smart.